Could you please not get the Alzheimer disease yet? I’m not prepared. I didn’t know how quickly it would or could take hold. You and Mom (an invalid) live an hour away. Your job of taking care of your wife will become mine. I am realizing that my life is going to be overtaken by your lives. Can I have a month or two to get used to the idea? No. Okay, I understand.
Your wistful daughter.
You’ve called in a panicked state the last two days since your husband has been in the hospital. Because of your illness, emphysema and COPD, you have abrogated all thought processes to your husband for the last decade. So when you called me I said, “Step up to the plate. What happened to that woman that was a single mom, taking care of her kid, and working two jobs? The woman who used to take care of business, the accountant, the avid reader, the capable woman I used to know? Don’t worry I will be there to do for you, but I won’t take over ALL of your responsibilities as you have given to your husband. You need to help me as much as you need me to help you. Make some phone calls woman, ask questions, be a proactive advocate. You are not helpless.
Your Partner in Illness
Why do you insist on changing on a dime? What, did you see a dime on the ground? Did I step on it by accident? Maybe it was someone else’s dime. I know, I know. I stepped on it anyways. I won't fight it.
Learning to Balance Life as It Comes