I kissed my mother’s cheek and my father’s forehead. I gave
my brother the head nod and told him, “I’ll see you later at home. I grabbed my
hat and rambled down their porch stairs heading for my car. Good temperature
for nine at night on an early November evening, Cool crisp, skies clear and pure,
just beautiful.
I hear a noise very close behind me, the sound of two dogs running
and growling. The sound gets closer, inches from me now. The lizard part of my
brain screeched a siren that shook me to the core and rang out, sounding like
my voice screaming into the night. A fear and then terror in a matter of
milliseconds took over. A quick glance revealed two pit bulls behind me. An
ancestor of a hundred thousand years ago screamed up through the centuries at
me, “You unaware ass, a predator is about to take you down!” My reaction was
intense, instant and visceral. I turned and jumped away, the blood-curdling
scream brought my brother out of my mother’s house instantly.
When I jumped out of the way, I was standing in the neighbor’s
sloping driveway, and I fell backwards into the street, my back hitting hard. I
screamed again, when realization hit me that fending off TWO dogs meant the
stakes had gotten excessively high, my vulnerability stabbed at my psyche, and
I was on my back in the street about to mauled. The movie the Omen flashed in
my head.
I raised myself still clutching my purse in front of me, a shield,
and my arm ready to be raise in defense, the first part of my body I surmised
to be torn to shreds. I see him fully now, as he looks at me. In that second, I
realized that my scream and the terror I felt was a sure way to trigger a predator to attack. I just released enough primordial fear pheromones, that surely it would awakened the dogs' primordial predatory wolf pack sensory to go in for the kill. Great, I just hung out a sign saying, “Wounded
Gazelle, Come and Get Me.” I waited for the first sign of attack.
I get to my knee and the dog skips toward me. I realize my fatal
mistake. By trying to get up, I was sitting on my legs. My leg was the only
power weapon I could possibly use to kick this dog off. I was in a bad defensive
position and could be knocked over easily if the dog attacked just them. I had made
myself vulnerable again. Everything I did came back to me as a mistake. At the same time, I knew that the other dog might come
at me too. I could only scream at the dog in front of me and forcefully as I
could, “Get away from me!” And the dog bounded back from the direction he had
come.
Then I realize the dogs belong to my nephew who lived two
doors down from my mother. I saw him, and then heard his voice calling his
dogs. The dogs were not vicious. They would not have attacked me. But they had come
up behind me growling in the dark and a fear I have never experienced took over
my whole being.
My brother came to me as I was getting up. The trauma about
to hit, he hugged me and asked if I was all right. All I could say was yes, and
then another realization kicked in, I’m wet. “I have to go” and then whispered in a matter
a fact voice, “I wet myself.”
This is how fucking scared I was.
My nephew came up, hugged me too and said he was sorry. I
muttered “its okay” got in my car and drove away.
With 20 minutes to drive home, I lift my ass off the jacket
as much as can be possible while I drive a car on a four-lane road going 45
miles an hour. My mind is racing between
the memory, the shock of my reaction, the anger – because I have told my nephew
more than once that, the dogs are required to be on leash, the fear, the heavy
breathing, the adrenalin dump. I calm myself, telling myself that I was never really in danger. Although my body and mind understand the wisdom of that logic,
they can’t process the logic, not yet.
The door was locked which pissed me off. HEY! I AM VULNERABLE OUT
HERE. STRAY DOGS CAN BE OUT HERE. WHY IS THE FUCKING DOOR LOCKED, WHEN YOU KNOW I WILL BE HOME RIGHT NOW. I
slap at the windowpanes with frustration and hurt. When my husband opens the door,
I fall sobbing into his arms. After a moment or two, I was able to answer his
questions.
“There were dogs”, uncontrollable sobbing, “They were
growling”, uncontrollable sobbing, “pit bulls chasing”, uncontrollable sobbing,
“I was so scared”, uncontrollable sobbing, “that I fell on my back”, uncontrollable
sobbing, “I thought I was going to be mauled” … hyper-ventilating with
uncontrollable sobbing.
I know I will
go over this, going over my reactions, marveling at the level of fear, and the
analysis of a fear never experienced before. My indignation of the lack of
common courtesy or acknowledgement of a neighbor’s sense of well-being and
security around two unleashed Heraclians
of the canine
world, triggering a primordial fear of the passion play of death that has existed between predator and prey over milennia.
I died four times in less than 10 seconds.
- I was about to
get mauled by dogs, death or disfigurement.
- I fell onto the middle of the street hard on
my back and imagined I was going to be run over, broken body or death.
- I was
about to fight for survival, with low probability of success, inadequate
survival skill or defensive strength, and the dread of witnessing and feeling
that first moment of the dog’s attack, the dread and anticipation of extreme pain
and panic.
- Then, when it was over, dying of humiliation and unneccsary, preventable panic.
This is what happens when someone who doesn’t feel that a
leash is warranted or necessary because HE knows his dogs, that the law, this
particular law is unnecessary and limiting. Well, I’m here to tell you. It can wreak
havoc. It can scare a person to death. It may cause someone to fall into the
middle of a street. It can result in injury. It can cause PTSD. It can create ruin in the mind and havoc to the
soul. Leash your damn curious, well meaning, beautiful, playfully growling dog monsters.
Just imagine if I was not a relative. That I could have
gotten hurt or worse. That I called the authorities and had your dogs removed and you
ticketed. That I decided to make you pay. I don’t blame the dogs, but the dogs
would have been the ones to pay with their lives. It was all so unnecessary, preventable. Leash them.
Dude, you owe me a year of my life. Can I have it back? No,
I guess you can’t really give it back to me. Not cool. Not cool at all.